novelslam Chapter 734: We Need to Look at This with New Eyes
Chapter 734: We Need to Look at This with New Eyes
Zeng Lijuan held Tang Ruixuan's hand with obvious affection, praising, "Xuanxuan is getting more and more beautiful!"
Apart from holidays, Zeng Lijuan, as the great-aunt, rarely sees Tang Ruixuan and Huo Xinyuan. After not seeing them for a long time, she suddenly discovered that the little girl had grown into such a beautiful young woman. How could she not love her?
However, Huang Xiaochuan felt that his mother's way of praising her was inappropriate. He believed that when dealing with a girl as beautiful as Tang Ruixuan, one should not praise her beauty all the time, as this would eventually lead to an externalization of her self-worth, which would be detrimental to Tang Ruixuan's growth.
Since having children, Huang Xiaochuan has bought a lot of books in order to learn how to be a good father. Among them, he has read a few books on child psychology. Although he only understands the basics, it is enough for him.
A while ago, because his older sister and brother-in-law told him about that matter, Huang Xiaochuan took out the book again and flipped through it, hoping to find a solution.
Take Tang Ruixuan for example. No matter what, she is still a child who hasn't grown up. If she is praised for her beauty for a long time, she may subconsciously regard beauty as the core of her self-identity, which is very detrimental to her growth.
Furthermore, the book states that when children become overly concerned with how others perceive them, it weakens their learning ability and leads them to focus more on their outward appearance.
So Huang Xiaochuan quickly interrupted his mother and waved to Tang Ruixuan: "Xuanxuan, come here for a second."
Huang Xiaochuan made a last-minute decision to give his family a lesson in front of everyone.
After Tang Ruixuan walked to his side, Huang Xiaochuan asked her with a smile, "Xuanxuan, tell your uncle, how do you feel when someone compliments your looks?"
When her uncle asked such a question so abruptly, Tang Ruixuan was taken aback for a moment. However, fortunately, the child had a good personality and was precocious. After thinking for a moment, she replied, "I feel a little embarrassed!"
Hearing this, Huang Xiaochuan breathed a sigh of relief.
He nodded and continued, "So, besides being beautiful, what other outstanding qualities do you think you possess?"
Tang Ruixuan answered her uncle's question with grace and confidence: "I love learning!"
Hearing this, Huang Xiaochuan nodded approvingly: "Well said. A love of learning is a very good quality. Through learning, you can see a wider world."
Huang Xiaochuan paused here, looked at his family, and then said, "Actually, being beautiful is just an external appearance. It may attract attention at first glance, but this state cannot last."
Tang Ruixuan listened attentively. She had always liked and admired her uncle, so she naturally took his words very seriously.
Seeing his niece listening attentively with an expectant look in her eyes, Huang Xiaochuan continued, "Just like you said, you enjoy learning, which is excellent. Learning can cultivate your excellent inner qualities. A person's value does not lie in how others evaluate their appearance, but in how they treat themselves and others, how they face challenges, and how they persevere in their ideals. Beauty may change over time, but excellent inner qualities will accompany you throughout your life, allowing you to shine at any age."
Tang Ruixuan was indeed a bright child. She quickly grasped the meaning and said, "Uncle, I understand now. When I was learning Chinese, I learned a poem that goes, 'A person with a wealth of knowledge naturally exudes elegance.' What you just told me has the same meaning as that poem."
Huang Xiaochuan was pleasantly surprised and had to look at this child in a completely new light.
"Wow, Xuanxuan! You can even apply what you've learned to other situations!"
Then, Huang Xiaochuan said seriously, "Indeed, rich knowledge and a kind and resilient character will make a person exude a unique charm from the inside out, which is much more important than simply relying on external beauty."
At this moment, Yu Xiang joined the conversation between the uncle and nephew: "Xuanxuan, everyone has their own unique qualities, but outstanding people learn to appreciate their own uniqueness instead of indulging in the praise of others."
At this point, even the slowest person could see that Huang Xiaochuan and Yu Xiang were educating and guiding Tang Ruixuan.
At this point, Huang Xiaochuan said to the family members present, "In the future, when we praise our children, we should pay more attention to whether they have tried hard, whether they have made progress, and whether their behavior at school and at home is correct, rather than praising their appearance."
Although the elderly mother, Zeng Lijuan, didn't quite understand what her youngest son meant, she knew that he must have his reasons for doing so, and she would naturally follow his advice. It was simply a matter of not praising children for being pretty and encouraging them to strive for improvement!
Huang Xiaochuan is using this opportunity to guide his niece to establish correct values. Once she is strong inside, external influences such as love letters will not be a threat.
As for those scheming and despicable people outside the school who covet their niece's beauty, he, as her uncle, will handle that.
Huang Xiaochuan's words were naturally overheard by Zeng Hong and Tang Jianhua, who were filled with gratitude for their younger brother (brother-in-law).
Naturally, the family members then learned why Huang Xiaochuan had pulled this stunt today.
The second sister, Zeng Xia, quickly called Huo Xinyuan (who weighed six jin), who was playing wildly with her younger siblings in the yard, back to school. With a stern face, she asked her, "Tell me, has anyone written you love letters at school?"
Huo Xinyuan, who was in the middle of a lively conversation when she was suddenly called back, was already quite unhappy. When she heard her mother call her into the room and ask such a question, she immediately put on a fierce expression: "Who dares to write me a love letter? I'll beat them to death!"
"Hahaha!" Zeng Hong's living room was almost turned upside down by the laughter. Zeng Xia was both ashamed and angry. She regretted giving birth to such a thing.
Huo Miao, his face flushed, quickly pulled his wife back to his side.
Huang Xiaochuan laughed the loudest. He patted Huo Xinyuan's head and said, "Alright, stop listening to your mother's nonsense. Just focus on your studies. Go call your younger siblings back; dinner's coming up soon!"
"Okay! Got it!" As soon as he finished speaking, the little girl darted out. Huang Xiaochuan was speechless. She'd be a real handful when she grew up.
Thinking of this, Huang Xiaochuan glared at Zeng Xia angrily, but Zeng Xia retorted, "Why are you looking at me like that? I didn't teach Liu Jin her personality; it's just her nature, okay? You can't blame me, can you?"
Huang Xiaochuan pointed bluntly at Zeng Xia and Huo Miao, the couple: "You two! One of you only knows how to work hard to earn money for them, and the other only knows how to go shopping, play cards, and meet up with your girlfriends. You spend money like water, and neither of you will patiently spend time with Liu Jin. When she can't get married in the future, let's see if you two won't be worried!"
Unexpectedly, Zeng Xia didn't seem to care at all and even said, "I was already reluctant to let my Liujin get married. Huo Miao and I have already discussed it and we will definitely find a son-in-law to live with us in the future."
Upon hearing this, Huang Xiaochuan was too lazy to say anything more. He thought, "Let's see which unlucky guy will be willing to marry into the family in the future."